Friday, February 16, 2007

No More Bitterness!

I saw something a couple of days ago that made me realize that I needed to rid myself of surrounding negativity. Remember this post? It kind of goes along the same lines, but I’m extending it into blogging.

Let me back up and give you some history. When I first started reading blogs, I read whatever I could find. There wasn’t near as much out there as there is now when I started reading them. Then I decided to start writing my own and they started getting more and more popular. The one trend I seemed to notice in the ones that I read back then and continue to read now is that the posts are/were always so negative. Reading some of these ladies I got the impression that there was nothing that they liked about their lives, and they always had so many problems. And I’m not talking about major, devastating problems, I’m talking about every post being a whine about everything from waking up with a stomach ache to complaining about the traffic and weather. A couple of months ago I asked myself why in the world I kept reading these, because I was so sick of “listening” to their whining. My answer was I thought that reading their blogs made my life seem so wonderful…and I would read about their “bad lives” and look at mine and feel like I had hit the jackpot when it came to the life department. So the other day I was reading something that related to one of these blogs that I had been reading and it hit me…stop reading all this negativity! It does nothing but bring me down, even if it’s subconsciously. I have felt so much better over the last few days! I read about all of your wonderful lives and you always have such wonderful, uplifting things to say in your comments, and I feel so much better! It really surprises me how many nice and wonderful ladies I have met through my blog, and for that I’m very thankful!

Please don’t think that any of these blogs belong to you, my wonderful readers…I never commented on any of them, so they have no idea who I am…I just stalked them :) And honestly, you guys would probably be very surprised if you even knew what types of blogs I was talking about!

I know we all have bad days, weeks, months; and we all have some type of devastation hit us at some point…that’s not what I’m talking about at all. I just realized that if you read through someone’s blog and 95% of each and every post is a complaint, then the only that I will get from it is depressed. The blogs I read generally like their lives, and love their kids, and have posts that are happy and upbeat (along with the sad ones of course).

Do I make any sense? I just want to make it clear that I know we all have bad times, and I like to read about what’s going on in your lives and support you as best as I can when bad things happen. But if nothing good is going on in your life, then there’s nothing I can do to help, and in these cases, the women just seem bitter (not depressed)…they act like the world revolves around them, and I hate to tell them, but it doesn’t. So I’m putting a stop to the bitterness entering my life right now!

8 comments:

Julie said...

Of course that makes total sense! It's your life, you need to do things that make YOU happy! : )

Kellie said...

It makes complete sense. I have SO many negative things right now that I'm struggling with, but refuse to blog about them. So, I blog about stupid things like Target and my moronic landlord!!

Good for you for taking the steps to remove that aspect from your life. And, I feel the same about my readers and those I read. All of you are awesome and it's strange that I turn to all of YOU for advice and support and not "real" people. Make sense?

Have a nice weekend.

Danielle Meehan said...

I totally get what your talking about. I enjoy blogging because I can vent when I need to get it out. But I also get to shout my joys from the rooftop and it makes me feel good. Plus, it's fun to write the random crap that happens.
I feel better when I read people who are positive and when I feel like I can help my friends with comments. :)

Julie said...

Ok, I know I already commented once today but I wanted to let you know I tagged you for a meme on my blog - check it out!

Bhu said...

I started reading your blog a month ago. I really liked it. Your ideas are similar to mine, so I really enjoy reading your blog. Shortly I will also start blogging. Thanks for motivating me.

Kelly M said...

Total sense! I am guilty of writing negative blogs...especially about the darn snow! haha But I do agree..some people are very negative...but I guess maybe blogging is a way they deal with it and get it out and are able to deal with their negativity. Who knows...Glad your making the move to make you being happy a priority!

Amy W said...

Totally curious now what blogs those were...

I completely agree with you, I stopped reading some certain blogs recently because I just couldn't handle the negativity...

Rachel said...

I totally agree with you! I can't stand to be around people that are constantly negative, it is definitely on of my major pet peeves!