Strengths and Weaknesses

What skills do you have and what skills are you lacking? This is a hard subject for me because I always tend to think that I’m lacking way more than I have.

Hubby has always told me that I know how to fight/argue. He tells everyone that I taught him. I take this as a compliment because I get into a lot of arguments (I have a hard time letting something go when someone says something untrue/inappropriate, etc.). He always tells our kids that I’m the greatest listener (which makes me so great at arguing he says). As weird as it is, my family fought all the time, and I think after watching them for years and years, I finally grasped the right and wrong ways to do it. Hubby’s family never fought…everything just got “swept under the carpet.” They are horrible fighters…running away screaming when things don’t go their way. And they’re 29.

I’m a great mother. I know a lot of times I question it, and I always will question and second-guess my day-to-day actions, but I know overall I’m a great mom. We had a speaker at our mom’s group last month that was giving mothering advice, and I sat and listened to it thinking “is this for real? Isn’t this common sense? Doesn’t everybody know this?” But looking around the room and talking to some people afterwards, I quickly learned that what comes natural and easy to me, doesn’t come quite so easy to other people.

I try to be a good wife. I do struggle with this, so I have to say this is a strength and a weakness. There are areas of being a wife that I fail at miserably (at least in my mind, hubby always says I’m great). I know that I’m supportive, and loving, and caring. But remember my first strength up there? Yeah, I like to nit-pick a little too much with hubby sometimes.

I am very impatient. This falls through to my kids a lot and it sucks. I get bored really easily, and because of that I might stop playing with them, or constantly have us on the go so I don’t get bored (I think I have ADHD…seriously!)

I am very insecure. As a whole. I am very secure in some decisions I’ve made, but as a person, I always feel so inferior to others. I think I’m getting better at this…especially when I’m in “mom” mode. Since I think I’m a good mom, I feel secure when I’m out with the kids and around other moms. But take me out of that role and I am scared.to.death.

I have a real hard time multi-tasking outside the home. I think this is a recent problem. We went to dinner with hubby’s family on Saturday and only after 2 other people made comments and half-way through dinner did I remember that his uncle had a heart attack a couple of months ago. I couldn’t believe how rude I was to not have remembered and to have said something. Another thing…my sister’s boyfriend’s (who is also hubby’s friend) grandpa died late last week. And only after talking to my sister on Monday, who told me that my mom sent flowers to the funeral home, did I think “wait a minute…why didn’t I send anything?” I have really had a hard time with this lately and really feel like crap about it. I did just mail a card and a pizza gift-card to my sister’s boyfriend…I hope he isn’t too offended that it’s coming a week late.

So what about you? What are some of your strengths and weaknesses? Come on, let them out…no judgment here, I promise!