Being A Mom

Being a mom is the greatest position I’ve ever held. It beats being any position in the workforce by a long shot. Of course this seems weird, because being a mom pays you squat and positions in the workforce can pay you up to lots and lots of dollars. So it’s funny when I think that the rewards of hugs and kisses, and laughs, and baby-talk, and trying so hard to be like mommy, and secrets, and “I love you’s,” and snuggling, and hearing “dat funny” from my son, and hearing “well yeahhh” from my daughter, and doing my daughter’s hair, and watching her put on make-up, and sitting on the floor with my daughter in my lap with my arms around her just rocking, and my son repeating every word I say as he learns to talk would be worth so much more than any amount of money?

We had dinner with some friends last night and she told me how someone was absolutely shocked that she had three kids and wanted another one. She told them she loved being with her kids…she loved them so much. We have fun with our kids. If you ask my husband and I which we’d rather have, a day to ourselves or a day with the kids, we’d pick the day with our kids in a heartbeat. My poor parents are always trying to take the kids for the weekend or a week – partly to give us a break but mostly because they just want to spend time with them. We have a really hard time letting them go, even for a couple of days. My kids are down with them right now…hubby and I will be there tonight, and just the couple of hours last night that they should have been there and weren’t were hard for us.

Too many people have kids that shouldn’t. And I’m not talking about the “accidents” and the crack-addicts on the street corner. I’m talking about middle to upper class suburbanites that have kids because “it’s the thing to do,” they’re on to that phase of their life. If you don’t want kids, don’t have them. Plain and simple. Why do people have kids if they don’t enjoy being with them? Again, I’m talking about the people that deliberately have kids, but you see them doing their own thing while their kids play. Every.single.time. And I know that we need breaks…I completely get that…even week-long breaks every once in a while. But even those breaks are hard for us…we have to make ourselves take them for our sanity because after being away from the kids for an hour I’m ready to turn right back around and stay with them!

And you’re right, I don’t know for sure that all of these kids weren’t accidents. But considering I’m talking about a group of well-educated folks with 2 or more kids, I’m guessing that they weren’t accidents.

I’m sure I’m opening up a can of worms (which I love to do) but seriously…I don’t like dogs, so I would never go out and get a dog just because most families have dogs these days. So why on earth are people doing that with kids? It’s just so nice to be around and be friends with people that think the same way we do about our kids…we love them more than anything in the world and we will spend every free second with them that we can!