Thursday, February 21, 2008

Daycare Review

The kids are doing OK in Daycare. My daughter has issues with it (pretty much the same issues I have) but we’re trying to work through them. One of the issues is that when they sit on the floor for circle time, they all have to sit Indian style. My daughter does not like to sit like that (just like her dad!). I can’t figure out why it matters how the kids sit on the floor as long as they are sitting? Especially when there are only 4 of them in the class??

The cots they take naps on are too hard for her. I can understand this…I like a very nice, soft, comfy bed to sleep in. She HATES getting up early. She’s looking forward to tomorrow when my parents watch her so she can sleep in (her words…I didn’t think I would hear that until she was in middle school).

My son has a good time. He’s so easy-going! His teacher wrote us a note on the first day saying how much she enjoyed him and how well-mannered he is and great with “please” and “thank-you.”

Overall they are fine. I’m not doing so well, but they’re fine. The worst part is that the nanny we were so happy about came in with her rate at $100 more per week than she had originally quoted us. Plus she wants all paid time-off (4 weeks per year…that’s what I have off, so she would automatically get that off). She says she’ll try to time her vacations with ours, but she still wants paid. It’s hard because we feel it’s fair to split it in the beginning. A lot of companies (including the one she used to work for that she admitted to us) you don’t get paid vacation until you’ve been there for a year. But the worst issues is the extra $100. She claims she hadn’t really paid attention to the hours I had sent her when she quoted me. I had told her twice before she gave me the first rate. I’m very frustrated because had she told me this rate originally, I wouldn’t have talked to her. And she’s working for family right now, and admits that she gives them a deal. So it’s not like it’s a rate she’s used to getting…it’s higher than the going rate around here. I don’t know what we’re going to do.

I always thought being a mom was easy. Whenever anyone would ask me if it’s hard having kids I would tell them it is so easy for me. Taking care of kids, playing with them, making sure they eat and sleep, it’s all pretty easy. But this part of being a mom is really, really tough for me. Worrying about them all day, worrying about who will take care of them and making the best decision regarding where they go during the day…this is when I think life was easier without kids.

So whenever anybody asks me if it’s hard having kids, I’ll really have to clarify now…the day-to-day stuff is a piece of cake, but the worrying is tough, and sometimes debilitating.

9 comments:

radioactive girl said...

I am so sorry this is so hard right now. Hopefully soon it will all be solved/settled and you won't have to worry as much about it all. I really wish you were closer so we could work something out!

Dani said...

Oh that sucks. Hopefully you can work something out with the nanny and it will all be okay.
It's crappy though. Part of being self-employed is paying attention to the details like how long the days will be when you quote someone a price.
Hope everything works out.

Sherry said...

How dare that nanny change the price on you, and wanting a paid vacation too? Uh not!!!
I hope soon you will find someone that will ease your worries. I know your children are top priority and hey that's only right.
Good luck and in the meantime other than sitting Indian style and the hard mats, seems like the kids have adapted to day care better than mom, huh?

Jill@Who Could Ask for Anything More said...

Sorry to hear about the daycare issues. You're right...who cares how they sit in the circle? Geesh. I know sometimes things are harder on mom and dad than the kids. Regarding the nanny: I'd bring out the bartering guns. If she's asking for more than she's getting now, she probably isn't truly expecting it. Plus, she's already quoted you a rate, apparently. Someone's talked her into going for more. Offer an extra $50 per week instead of $100 and no paid vacation until after the first year. I can barter with someone until I flat wear them out, which isn't a good thing and my husband tries to reel me in. GOOD LUCK! I know this is stressful for you and your sweet family.

Lil Mouse said...

:-( hope it gets better.

Kellie said...

I agree that the day to day stuff is a walk in the park. It's the worry and the fear that KILLS me!

$100 more per week?! Clearly she didn't pay attention when you discussed rates the first time. Hope you guys can work something out!

Rachel said...

Stick to your guns, it sounds like she's trying to take advantage of you guys.

Edie said...

:( I'm sorry it's so hard. I totally know how you feel though and I agree 100%. I've always felt really comfortable with Hayden's care here at work, but now that she's going to start kindergarten in the fall, I'm seriously worried.

Kelly M said...

OH god, I can't believe she changed her price..and now wants paid vacations. I would sit down with her again and try to come to a compromise or try to find someone else. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this. This is one of my biggest worries when I have kids-- the daycare piece.