Tuesday, May 30, 2006

Introduction

OK, I’ve tried to start this blog a couple of different times, but nothing has really felt “right”. But as I was sitting at work earlier, I thought of the angle that I need to come at this with, and so here goes!

Introduction: I am in my mid-twenties with a wonderful husband and two wonderful kids. I currently live in the Midwest, but growing up I lived a couple of different places, so it’s really hard to answer when people ask me where I’m from. I am a working mom….I had always planned on staying home, but I love my job and working so much that I’m lucky enough to have my cake and eat it too because I know that my kids are being cared for by a family that truly cares about them (my sitter calls constantly when I keep the kids home because they’re sick to see how they’re doing). My husband is about 4 months older than me, and my daughter is 3 and my son is just about 1. We really are a happy family….we are very blessed!

My goal in life is to be happy, and to bring happiness to everyone around me, especially my family. This is why I strive to be the “cool” mom and “perfect” wife. These terms are in quotes because I don’t mean them in the way that most people use the words. I want to be a mom that my kids aren’t embarrassed to have around (and before all of you out there with teenagers laugh and say “just wait”, I know it can be done…how? Because I had quite a few friends growing up that really didn’t mind being around their parents or having their friends around their parents. And we liked to hang around them!). I will not exchange discipline for coolness, but I will definitely work hard to find the right balance between raising a responsible child and being liked by my children. My husband and I have always said that we will never say to our children “just because I said so” and we have been very successful at it (and before you say “but you’re children are still so young, wait until I tell you more about my very verbal 3 year-old). We know that a lot of times a parent will say “No, because I said so” because they are too lazy to perform what the child requests (i.e. getting another drink, or a snack or a toy), or because the parent really doesn’t have a good reason for saying “no”. The point of this little tangent is that by explaining to the child why you are saying “no” you are giving that child valuable moral and life lessons. But alas I have gone on a tangent….where was I?

OK, back to being “cool”…my husband and I LOVE kids. We always have, and that’s why we will have at least 4 children. We were known for taking care of our friends’ kids before we had kids….we loved it! And I really think that shines through in our ability to raise our children. We have been complimented so many times on how well our children behave, and how enjoyable our children are to be around. We are never hesitant to take our children anywhere….any restaurant, meeting, get-together, you name it, our children will be there very well behaved and entertaining everyone!

As for being the “perfect” wife….I want to ALWAYS be someone that my husband is proud to be with. Now I know my husband will love me no matter what….I could not shower for a week straight and he would never make a comment to me (he might sleep in another bed though :)). Seriously, he’s the best husband in the world, and I know that I’m very lucky to have him by my side, and I know that there are lots of women who meet him every day that wish he wasn’t so happily married. This is why I do everything I can to be the “perfect” wife (and I know he’s doing the same for me).

OK, that’s it for my introduction. I’m sure that everyone will learn much more about me as I update this. I just hope to share things that work and things that don’t work for me when it comes to being a woman, a wife and a mom.

:)

1 comment:

Kristina @ Family. Work. Life. said...

Stumbled across your blog, and I've enjoyed poking around a bit! I love that you are able to share your journey of working, parenting, and wifeing with joy!