tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25630313.post6257012093603060043..comments2023-11-05T06:45:51.635-05:00Comments on Happy Working Mom: Working or Staying At Home?Happy Working Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14673416031153824699noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25630313.post-60612532476246740632007-01-18T09:27:00.000-05:002007-01-18T09:27:00.000-05:00I stay home because if I worked, I would be a nerv...I stay home because if I worked, I would be a nervous wreck and not good for working or my kids. I would always feel torn into a million pieces, and I honestly have no idea how working moms can do it all. I am in awe that working moms are able to keep their world going because for me it would be a huge stress. <br /><br />I suppose I am a working mom now though because I got my home daycare license and watch two extra kids a few days a week. Honestly I stay home because I am very lucky to be able to choose to do so. I don't feel either way is better or worse inherently, but for me, working would not be good for our family. I'm lucky that it is a choice I can make. I agree though that since I am secure in my choice being right for me, I don't have the hostility towards either side that some moms do. If we all support each other, it is so much easier. I have some working mom friends that rely on me in pinches with daycare problems, and I am happy to help them. Isn't the saying that it takes a village to raise a child?Radioactive Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588217525296865718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25630313.post-9641849298253914192007-01-17T22:59:00.000-05:002007-01-17T22:59:00.000-05:00I chose to go back to work because I had to but I ...I chose to go back to work because I had to but I think that I would have regardless. Brian (DH) is a full time student right now and someone has to pay the bills and tuition right? It made it an easier decision because my work was so flexible and fabulous during the pregnancy. Jeffrey was born 11 weeks early (on the same day as Kellie's baby!) and they let me take as much as time as I needed. and since I work in the hospital that he was inpatient, they let me work goofy hours and pump every two hours as well as run up to see him all the time. Basically for two months they paid me to come in to the NICU.<br />Anyway, this is getting really long. Jeffrey was able to come home to me for 8 weeks, then my mother, and finally Brian had the summer off from school. I'm really happy that he started out with family but I'm glad where he's at now. <br />I think the perfect thing for me would to be able to work 3 or 4 days a week. I need that time away from home, but I adore him and feel guilty for the time I spend away from him. <br />I'm enjoying your blog. Thanks to Kellie for recommending it!Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04997543920064871108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25630313.post-47855019103571581772007-01-17T12:24:00.000-05:002007-01-17T12:24:00.000-05:00When my oldest daughter was born, I had every inte...When my oldest daughter was born, I had every intention of going back to work after 6 weeks. That was in 2000. Once she was born and my ex and I looked into childcare we realized that all, and I do me all, of my income would be paying for childcare. So, I made the decision to stay home. After about 2 months I decided to go to work part time for the IRS.<br /><br />I worked at night from 6-10 so there was still no childcare expenses and it worked out well for us. But, we were still not making enough money to really make ends meet. I decided to go to work full time for the IRS which meant working from 6-2:30am. A move that I'm glad I made. I was able to be Kaylie's primary caregiver until she was approx. 16 months old. <br /><br />My ex and I separated and I had to find work full time during the day. It was easier, I think, because I had been able to spend 16 months at home with her.<br /><br />Fast forward to 2006. After I had Alyssa, I dreaded going back to work. I didn't have to leave Kaylie at 6 weeks and I didn't want to leave Alyssa. But, Chris and I had to have my income. If I didn't work the job I had I was going to have to find something at night, but I had to work.<br /><br />It was a difficult decision for me. I wanted to be the one that took care of her and watched her discover new things every day. Luckily, I was able to find someone that I trust completely to take care of her. Alyssa loves her babysitter and I know she is well taken care of. I still wish I could be home with her, but, at the same time, I love my job. I'm a Mommy first and always will be, but I know that I would not be happy being at home all the time. It would be nice to be able to work part time, but, Chris's decision has made that no longer an option.Rachel (Crazy-Is)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05786360241354496729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25630313.post-85675157697395998052007-01-17T10:23:00.000-05:002007-01-17T10:23:00.000-05:00I work for a couple of reasons. I do enjoy my job...I work for a couple of reasons. I do enjoy my job and financially it helps pay the bills. My job, while it's full-time, is quite flexible. I work 3 days a week from home and then in the office the other 2. If one of my kids is sick, I can keep them home with me while I work. If the weather is bad, I can work from home. If I don't feel like driving into the office I don't. Basically as long as I get my work done my boss doesn't care when or where I do it. The flexiblity allows me to drop the girls off later, and pick up earlier, at daycare. I can also be available for special school events/class parties/etc. whenever needed. So while I do work, I don't necessarily have a strict 9 - 5 job.<br /><br />If I could stay at home I'm not sure it would be the best thing for me and my family. I enjoy working and do not feel guilty for having my children in daycare. It is a fact of life for us and we are all fine with it. My girls enjoy school and their time there. In fact many days when I come to pick them up they don't want to leave. I enjoy the challenge of my job and like what I do. Plus the salary provides with the means to live where we really want to, travel where we want and basically live the lifestyle we like.<br /><br />I think the choice to work or SAH is totally up to the individual. You have to do what works best for you and your family. While we all may be similar none of us are in the exact same situation and it would be wrong to judge one or another depending on the choice they made (not that anyone here is being judgemental).Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02500011459345862059noreply@blogger.com